Tuesday, May 22, 2012


This little man. Kaden. He is tough cookie these days. He is OH SO VERY opinionated. He likes to get his way. (Who doesn't?!?) But its tough because he is not verbal. And we don't know what he wants. And he completely lacks all patience. I know. He's three. Three year olds do that. So we are stumped on how to discipline and direct him. He can let us know "Yes" or "No" on the iPad. Do you want a drink? "YES" Do you want to go to bed: "NO". But then we wonder if something hurts him and I do not think he has that concept down. So I tried Advil and Zantac this week to see if perhaps its pain. And he wants to be on the go during all waking hours. And while I love doing things, its just not feasible to be always going somewhere. I did find at lunch today as he whined between bites because he wanted the food faster than I was feeding him, that doing some deep pressure touches on his arm and speaking quietly but firmly did stop the whining. "No Kaden. Its Isaiah's turn. You need to wait." I'm open to suggestions on how to help Kaden not be such a whiner...and screamer. Because when he's not getting his way he's screaming. Everyone says how good he is when we are out - its true. He's super happy when we are on the go. But our biggest challenge is at home. We want him to have a happy heart when its time to just play on the mat. Because mama has to shower sometimes, ya know:) Got any ideas? I'm all ears.

1 comment:

Surrounded by Blessings said...

We have some of that with our little one. She got away with so much of that because she couldn't talk. Now she is becoming more verbal so we are able to get her to say things sometimes, but the whining and crying need to stop. If something doesn't go her way she'll cry till she pukes. It's not fun. We've found that sticking to a routine does help some. We've also learned that giving her some words to say helps. She's figured out 'fast' and 'slow' for feeding. She's figured out 'stop' when the other kids are trying to play with her and she doesn't want them to. We focused on teaching her those words so she could communicate more. Can you program some other answers to the ipad? I'm not sure how that works since we're teaching her to say things. I'm not sure she understands pain either. If I ask if something hurts she says yes to everything I ask about. As he does become more able to communicate you have to start ignoring the whining. Not an easy thing to do I'm finding. Good luck and share any answers you come up with my way.